Tuesday, October 2, 2007


Why do we get hurt?I have mused over this question for quite sometime now.The amount of heartbreaks I see around me presents a much more sorrier sight than the relief and the happiness in the contented hearts...so what is it that actually causes a heartbreak?many days of introspection and silent pondering I have probably figured it out...it’s expectation.it is the expectation,it is what we desire from a certain relationship that attaches the element of pain onto it.the people involved don’t manage to live upto each other’s expectation,things start going awry and before even realization can dawn on one’s consideration the damage inflicted on the relationship is irrepairable.
Maybe,one of my friend’s approach to deal with relationships is the best.he believes that no matter how dear a person is to you there must still exist some “distance”(if he is to be quoted) between them.this would give each their own “space” and then you can be bonded warmly into any relationship without risking your emotional health.it’s true probably...so the bottomline is
for the sake of smooth blossoming of any relation

we should not venture into it’s forbidden lengths.

keep expectations out of the question and

enjoy every little sweetness that any association has to offer.

....Easier said than done though

12 comments:

a blue eyed girl said...

you are so right my friend! expectaton is definitely it! my heart's been broken 2x in the past 2 years, all due to my expectations of where the relationship was leading....and when they did not go where i expected, i was crushed! i wish i could learn "distance" i get far too attatched and sentimental.....great post.

Anonymous said...

bang on. cudnt agree more :)

................your's entirely said...

@ a blue eyed girl
thanx for reading the entry....heartbreaks are actually good!!they make us stronger...is'nt it?

................your's entirely said...

@ ashu
thanx dear....thanks for reading

Anonymous said...

evr lived in reality..or is it just an illusion of ur mind!!

................your's entirely said...

@ anonymous
hey dude reality strikes everyone hard and i have been no different

annie said...

An impractical lesson that one must take back. Where there are emotions involved expectations will be there no matter how we hard not to delve into them. Just one of those things that we can’t do without.

annie said...

:( i dint mean to bring others into tears but wot to do such is life for me.

Anonymous said...

Hurt comes when you keep expectations wit the person u love and if you dont keep expectations with the person u love, then with whom ? and if u dont, then is it love ? wot abt the cravings of the inner self ?

a vicious cycle you see . very complex, very innate and too rigid to understand, but yes life goes on. hurts happen, they get cured, people reunite and move on.

at times hurt remains, ppl drift, move on and catch new people. and the cycle continues!!!

................your's entirely said...

@ashu
u r rite....u understand life pretty well...

Pragyan said...

An experience that teaches one the best of lessons and trust me it takes you to great heights in realizing the individual in you and your further love interest...and trust me again when i say it leads you to d best :)... n nt to forget ineffable once again!!!

Nightingale* said...

beautiful thoughts,100% true and so simple written,though as u wrote in last..quite tough to assimilate into life practically.Where thrs heart thrs hurt.